Divorcing parents are likely to have heard many things about how their divorce is likely to affect their children, and not all of those things are good. Perhaps well-meaning friends or family members have shared their opinions about the topic. Maybe your spouse has weighed in on the issue, especially if they do not want to get a divorce. Wherever the negative information is coming from, you need to hear the other side of the story and it goes like this: each child is affected differently by divorce, and not all effects of divorce on children are negative. If ending your marriage is the right choice for and your spouse, there is a good chance that your kids will benefit from the split, especially if the two of you handle it (and them) with the utmost care and respect.

Both parents and children experience a range of emotions during the divorce process. While the age of a child and the relationship between that child and each of his or her parents do shape the child’s experience of the divorce, there are other factors that influence it as well. For example, sibling bonds can become stronger. This strengthening of the sibling relationship has been documented in many different types of divorce scenarios, including the typical situation where the children all travel between their parents’ homes together. However, it also occurs in sibling groups where the children are not always all together in the same place at the same time.

Another possible effect of your divorce on your kids is relief. This is especially so in situations where the marriage has been strained for some time. Children sense tension, and even when parents take great care to argue out of earshot of the children and otherwise conceal the divide between them, the kids are often aware that all is not well in the home. When parents separate, there may still be some tension, but it will be significantly reduced and will continue to decline as time passes since the divorce. As the amount of tension between parents decreases, so will the children’s experience with it.

Divorce can also show children resilience and problem-solving in action. The attitudes and actions of you and your spouse are a major factor in your children’s overall experience with your divorce. When the two of you work together to, for example, figure out how to earn enough money to support two households, your children will see how you were able to solve that problem by working together to find a solution that works for the family as a whole. Likewise, if your children hear the two of you communicating with each other in a respectful way, they will see that people who disagree can treat each other with kindness and respect.

As you can see, divorce does not have to be a negative experience for children. Parents can continue to maintain loving and supportive relationships with each of their children throughout and after their divorce. Divorcing parents can take comfort in knowing that they have the power to shape their children’s experience of divorce for the better by making positive choices about how they approach their divorce and their interactions with their soon to be former spouse.

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Many people view divorce as an emotional process first and a practical process second. It is not unusual that people think about it in that way because divorce is, at its simplest, undoing something which two people did because of the feelings that they had for one another. It is important that divorcing couples remember that there is also a practical, mathematical side to divorce. In fact, it is the mathematical information that you will explore during the divorce process – the information that you will see regarding property, assets, and even parenting time – that you can readily use to assess what your options for settling your divorce.

When people get divorced, they are likely to have ideas about what they would like to accomplish as a result other than ending their marriage. These ideas are usually connected to numbers. For example, it is possible that you know what percentage of parenting time would be ideal for you. Also, you may know which items of personal property you would most like to have, as well as what the values of those items are. It is a good thing to think about your divorce in terms of numbers like these because you’ll need that information to determine how the things that you most want could fit into a fair distribution of the marital estate. It is possible to take the numbers that are related to the property and parenting situations of you and your spouse and combine them in many different ways. This good, because it increases the possibility that the two of you will agree on one of those possible combinations and be able to turn it into a divorce settlement instead of going to trial.

I realize that it can be difficult to see past all of the emotions to see the numbers related to your divorce for what they are. For example, you may have a strong attachment to your marital home, and you may want to pursue a settlement that would keep you in that home. Unfortunately, it is possible that given the numbers associated with your particular situation, buying out your spouse’s share of the home would not be a wise financial decision. If you discover this, look at the numbers again and see whether it might be better if you sell the house and split the proceeds. If that does not appeal to both of you, know that there are many different ways in which couples can choose to dispose of their homes. Likewise, parenting time agreements are as unique and varied as the couples who create them, and they contain all kinds of different percentages that work for the families who abide by them.

When you look at the numbers in your Texas divorce, you can get a sense of how a proposed settlement could affect your life now and into the future. We understand that it can sometimes be difficult to acknowledge the numbers that you see in terms of what they mean regarding the outcome that you want. However, it is often less difficult to do that than it is to deal with the long-term fallout of accepting a proposed property settlement or parenting agreement that does not serve your best interests.

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The start of a new school year brings up a wide variety of feelings for both children and their parents. When a family is navigating a divorce, there are even more feelings and practical concerns that must be acknowledged to ensure a smooth transition from summertime to the academic year for children and parents. Divorcing families may find the following information helpful as they begin the school year:

It is often the case that any routines that a family has in place at the beginning of a summer slip out of the picture by the time that it is time to return to school. The start of the school year is a crucial time to reestablish routines because a lot of things happen in the family’s life each day. Routines provide a blueprint for navigating all of those things. Divorcing parents often find that when they have similar routines in their separate households, the entire family thrives. Whether the two of you communicate well or not, the subject of household and school day routines is something that if you make an effort to work together, everyone’s life will run more smoothly, and each of you will be better able to focus on enjoying your children and supporting them in school and life. At the most basic level, compare notes on household routines and make sure that they are similar enough that they do not clash. They do not have to be the same, but, for example, if there is screen time after dinner in one household but not in the other, there is potential for conflict which could be avoided by simply having routines that are more similar. Also, be sure that the kids know what to expect from each parent (and what each parent expects of them) on school days and weekends.

Whether your children are attending the same school that they were last year or a different school, it is important for each parent to be familiar with each child’s school and their new teachers. Teachers are best able to serve the children in their classrooms when they know both the child and their parents. They also benefit from knowing basic information about what has been going on lately in your family. If you are the parent who has primary legal rights and responsibilities for your children, make sure that your children’s school, teachers, doctors, coaches, and anyone else that your kids spend time with knows that they are to share information about your children freely with your children’s other parent. It is the right thing to do, and it will also save you the work of having to make copies, send messages, and make phone calls to share the information yourself. Also, it is important that parents understand that most children wish that both parents could be there to see them perform, play sports, or do whatever it is that they are doing at the event. This does not mean that the two of you have to sit together, but consider making an agreement with your children’s other parent that both of you can attend all of their school events.

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Have you ever thought about just how complicated personal finances can be? Since personal finances can be complicated, it makes sense that when two people marry, their financial picture becomes even more complex. Each spouse still has his or her personal finances and personal financial history, and then there are the couple’s joint or household finances. When one or both spouses own businesses and other diverse types of assets, either together separately, there is a chance that the couple’s financial situation is highly complex.

When a couple has a complicated financial situation, both spouses stand to benefit from bringing a financial planner and an accountant into the mix of people that they consult with during their divorce case. In the past, few couples used the services of financial professionals during their divorce cases because many of their financial situations involved relatively simple questions of how to divide income, debts, and tangible assets like the family home and the spouses’ cars. In today’s society, things are more complicated. More families have two working spouses, and many more people own businesses. The rising cost of college has made college savings plans a popular class of assets, and there are more ways for people to invest money than ever before. These are just some of the reasons why more and more couples are consulting with financial professionals in addition to consulting with attorneys during their Texas divorce cases.

Since financial professionals understand how the various assets that a couple has work, they can help the spouses come up with ideas about how they could divide them equitably. They also know how to accurately assess the values of various types of assets, which is essential to being able to distribute them equitably. Sometimes it makes sense to split an asset in two. At other times, it is best for one spouse to take an asset and the other to take another asset of comparable value. Some assets require specific procedures to be followed to successfully split or transfer them. Financial professionals know all of the ins and outs of transferring, splitting, and otherwise dealing with financial assets, and they can advise spouses on what their bigger financial picture would look like, such as tax consequences, if they divide their assets in certain ways. All of this information can help spouses work through the question of how to divide their assets equitably.

Financial professionals can also help divorcing spouses make the transition from their joint financial lives to their single financial lives. They do this by helping them develop budgets to address their current day to day financial needs and financial plans that meet their future financial needs.

In some cases, financial experts may be able to offer valuable assistance if it appears as though one spouse has been hiding money. They can often review personal and business books and records and find out where the money is.

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While many Texas divorce cases settle out of court, there are many others that involve one or more court dates. If you are like many Texans, you have never seen the inside of a courtroom, and you may not know what to expect if your attorney informs you that you have a court date. Fortunately, divorcing Texans who work with Texas family law attorneys do not go into the courtroom alone or unprepared. If you are working with an attorney, your attorney will help you prepare yourself for your court date and represent you during the proceedings.

Each client’s divorce case is unique, and, depending upon what has been happening in your case, you may be going to court for any one of a number of reasons. Work closely with your attorney so that you are absolutely clear on what your upcoming court appearance is about. As your attorney prepares for your court date, they may need various types of information from you. Provide any requested information to your attorney as soon as possible, because prompt delivery of necessary information helps your attorney do his or her best work in preparing for your court date.

Even though you will likely be accompanied by your attorney when you go to court, it is helpful to prepare yourself on your own, in advance of your court date. Each court and, for that matter, each courtroom is slightly different. Your experience in court will go more smoothly if you take time to familiarize yourself with the rules and the layout of the courtroom before your court appearance. When in doubt about what to do, remain calm, ask your attorney, and always be respectful. Of course, this may be easier said than done, because divorce cases do often involve many emotions. Be sure to get the support that you need in working through your emotions throughout the divorce process, whether that means taking time to talk to trusted friends, family members or a therapist, or taking time for yourself to do things that help you relax and feel balanced, like running, hiking, or spending time outdoors. If you take time to clear you head before you go to court, you will be more likely to remain focused on the business at hand and less likely to be sucked into courtroom drama.

In the spirit of keeping your court appearance as simple and as businesslike as possible, be sure to check with your attorney in regards to having other people attend court with you. Friends and family may want to show their support. There is certainly a time and a place for that, but it may not be in the courthouse at the time of you court appearance. Your attorney can answer any questions that you may have in this regard.

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Going to court can be an intimidating experience, but it does not have to be that way. When you work with a Texas family law attorney, you will be well prepared and well represented at any court appearances that may occur during the course of your Texas divorce. To learn more, call Texas Family Law Attorney Alex Tyra today, at (903) 753-7499.