Many people view divorce as an emotional process first and a practical process second. It is not unusual that people think about it in that way because divorce is, at its simplest, undoing something which two people did because of the feelings that they had for one another. It is important that divorcing couples remember that there is also a practical, mathematical side to divorce. In fact, it is the mathematical information that you will explore during the divorce process – the information that you will see regarding property, assets, and even parenting time – that you can readily use to assess what your options for settling your divorce.

When people get divorced, they are likely to have ideas about what they would like to accomplish as a result other than ending their marriage. These ideas are usually connected to numbers. For example, it is possible that you know what percentage of parenting time would be ideal for you. Also, you may know which items of personal property you would most like to have, as well as what the values of those items are. It is a good thing to think about your divorce in terms of numbers like these because you’ll need that information to determine how the things that you most want could fit into a fair distribution of the marital estate. It is possible to take the numbers that are related to the property and parenting situations of you and your spouse and combine them in many different ways. This good, because it increases the possibility that the two of you will agree on one of those possible combinations and be able to turn it into a divorce settlement instead of going to trial.

I realize that it can be difficult to see past all of the emotions to see the numbers related to your divorce for what they are. For example, you may have a strong attachment to your marital home, and you may want to pursue a settlement that would keep you in that home. Unfortunately, it is possible that given the numbers associated with your particular situation, buying out your spouse’s share of the home would not be a wise financial decision. If you discover this, look at the numbers again and see whether it might be better if you sell the house and split the proceeds. If that does not appeal to both of you, know that there are many different ways in which couples can choose to dispose of their homes. Likewise, parenting time agreements are as unique and varied as the couples who create them, and they contain all kinds of different percentages that work for the families who abide by them.

When you look at the numbers in your Texas divorce, you can get a sense of how a proposed settlement could affect your life now and into the future. We understand that it can sometimes be difficult to acknowledge the numbers that you see in terms of what they mean regarding the outcome that you want. However, it is often less difficult to do that than it is to deal with the long-term fallout of accepting a proposed property settlement or parenting agreement that does not serve your best interests.

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The start of a new school year brings up a wide variety of feelings for both children and their parents. When a family is navigating a divorce, there are even more feelings and practical concerns that must be acknowledged to ensure a smooth transition from summertime to the academic year for children and parents. Divorcing families may find the following information helpful as they begin the school year:

It is often the case that any routines that a family has in place at the beginning of a summer slip out of the picture by the time that it is time to return to school. The start of the school year is a crucial time to reestablish routines because a lot of things happen in the family’s life each day. Routines provide a blueprint for navigating all of those things. Divorcing parents often find that when they have similar routines in their separate households, the entire family thrives. Whether the two of you communicate well or not, the subject of household and school day routines is something that if you make an effort to work together, everyone’s life will run more smoothly, and each of you will be better able to focus on enjoying your children and supporting them in school and life. At the most basic level, compare notes on household routines and make sure that they are similar enough that they do not clash. They do not have to be the same, but, for example, if there is screen time after dinner in one household but not in the other, there is potential for conflict which could be avoided by simply having routines that are more similar. Also, be sure that the kids know what to expect from each parent (and what each parent expects of them) on school days and weekends.

Whether your children are attending the same school that they were last year or a different school, it is important for each parent to be familiar with each child’s school and their new teachers. Teachers are best able to serve the children in their classrooms when they know both the child and their parents. They also benefit from knowing basic information about what has been going on lately in your family. If you are the parent who has primary legal rights and responsibilities for your children, make sure that your children’s school, teachers, doctors, coaches, and anyone else that your kids spend time with knows that they are to share information about your children freely with your children’s other parent. It is the right thing to do, and it will also save you the work of having to make copies, send messages, and make phone calls to share the information yourself. Also, it is important that parents understand that most children wish that both parents could be there to see them perform, play sports, or do whatever it is that they are doing at the event. This does not mean that the two of you have to sit together, but consider making an agreement with your children’s other parent that both of you can attend all of their school events.

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